tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018556069308118701.post8767102662462477953..comments2023-11-05T11:50:55.694+00:00Comments on Surviving Cancer: Tree of LifeAMAGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02307594902289641865noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018556069308118701.post-5682521374677694952009-03-19T15:44:00.000+00:002009-03-19T15:44:00.000+00:00If a friend has egg on his face, only a friend wil...If a friend has egg on his face, only a friend will tell him when he needs to wipe it off. If the friend holds you in regard, he will not be upset that you told him. The egg may turn out to be a spot, or a worthless fashion accessory, or something else more valuable, but if he holds you in regard, he will appreciate your concern, thank you for your guidance, and, where appropriate, open things for further understanding. If he's a friend of yours Pat seems likely to me he will hold you in esteem and appreciate your input on your concerns. If the concerns are terminal to relations, then maybe to say nothing is best (if the most valuable thing is friendship). I lost a friend to heroin once, I didn't agree with what he was doing, he appreciated my concern, but his addiction took him on a different path to me. We were good friends even while he knew my disapproval, but our lives veered off in different directions inevitably... We're not in touch any more, although l spoke to him perchance a couple of years ago and he is clean, now a drugs councilor in Glasgow and together with a girlfriend and her two kids. Things will go the way they go ultimately, but at least if you say what you feel you want to (where it's something you care about), people have the opportunity to know you, whatever their decisions may be. <BR/><BR/>I like this tree metaphor in the post, and the lesson on purposes are bang on for me. <BR/><BR/>I also think what the anonymous poster said has merit to it. <BR/><BR/>In response to it: another way is not to keep the waste. Energy only has to go somewhere if it's retained. In consciousness this happens where a person invests their identity in particular processes (believes). The totality of a person's consent constitutes the whole of his identity (ever thought about that before? - who I am is what I agree to be involved in (identify with) whether this is actively, or passively). For a persons identity to be absorbed in the impulses of reflection and imaginings is inevitable (given the stage of our social develeopment) and perhaps without end (to be human is to reflect and imagine, and act beyond these). But identity has at least five other avenues of potential absorbtion at the interface of what's happening (think sense modalities). When the first of the six avenues(1 mind, 5 sense modalities), is closed (i.e. when identity neglects absorbtion in impulses of reflection and imagination), there is no issue on what to do or how to respond. The more a person's identity steps outside of this first avenue the more flexible it resides in relation to the inevitable flow of absorbtion into imaginings and reflection, and the less there is any friction and no need to retain any waste. The practice of this activity is impossible! Yet well worth striving for IMO. Some beliefs are more useful than others for particular purposes.Jon Cameronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10213273128547539321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2018556069308118701.post-35570847983706962822009-03-19T12:09:00.000+00:002009-03-19T12:09:00.000+00:00When you stem a comment like you mentioned about y...When you stem a comment like you mentioned about your friend training with another group and you identify it as ego (I agree with that). Where does the 'energy' go. Because you have to vent that somewhere. Do you tell others? Or do you just put it in yor 'cup'?<BR/>It's essentially waste because it is caused by ego so if you put it in your internal cup then you are filling your cup with waste. Therefore you should vent right?<BR/><BR/>Stress and worry can also fill your cup and this cup needs periodically emptied. Crying is a good way to empty that cup. Are there any other ways?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com